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just basically assume that everyone you’ve ever cared about is a victim of brutal traumatic violence, k?
Whew consent questions are heavy I don’t want to think about consent (that’s a lie, I don’t want to think about non-consent, I want to live in a world where consent is a given and I don’t have to dwell about it forever. I know that is stupid and consent is an ever-continuing conversation but i don[t wanna have the conversation i wanna hide)
Today I answered a question about what consent means to be, and I was really honest. I said that sometimes I’m bad at consent because I say yes when I mean no, so I’d like people to really try to clarify with me and know when I actually mean no.
This sounds really ridiculous
but then Syd pointed out that I have the most telling facial expressions of any person ever. Like seriously, and it often works to my detriment, but I have the least subtle body language and it is actually so obvious when I’m unhappy.
And sure, some people have stuff where they can’t read body language, so I don’t really know what to do about that, but yeah, check my face
cw not-really-consent (not rape idk)
I just remember this time that I really really really didn’t want to fuck someone in the ass, but I felt really obligated to. I don’t know if it was because they manipulated me or not, but I felt like I couldn’t not do it, but I was the one doing the fucking, which is weird. Anyway, the subtle cues didn’t seem to work, so I made a big deal of huge exasperated reluctant sighs and saying I didn’t want to do it and another person was in the room just laughing at the situation, cuz it was ridiculous, but like i ended up fucking the person in the ass while verbally expressing that I didn’t want to (I really didn’t want to) but maybe they thought it was like a bdsm humiliation thing?? I think that is what happened. it would be super farcical if it were not so awkward. ahhhhhhh. anyway that was one of the times i said outright no and it didn’t really work but i still don’t know man.
I hate feeling guilty and knowing that EVEN MORE of the people I’m close to have experienced bullshit trauma.
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